Confessions…
I got this “bare it all” interrogation from a friend and I just thought that it’s time for me to answer some questions. Read on.
1. Are you serious when it comes to relationship?
Yes. I am dead serious when it comes to relationship. I love with all my heart.
2. Are you afraid of commitments?
No. commitment for me is sacred because it is for keeps. Some confuse it as an agreement (or worse as a contract) but it’s more that. It is grounded on mutuality and love of both parties.
3. Are you a risk taker?
“Only those who risk can tell how far they can go” …for the longest time, I keep on convincing myself that I am indeed a “risk taker” but I cannot fully claim it. I think it’s more proper to say that it depends on the situation…there are things in life that are worth risking for and there are some that are nothing but dirt bags…
4. What can you say about long distance relationships?
Inasmuch as I would like to believe that “absence makes the heart grow fonder” but I still prefer presence…suffice it say that it’s”more real” to love someone “who is there” than someone “who isn’t there”… (Accountable Speech: I am only referring to human relationships…)
5. Can you love a person who doesn’t love you?
Oddly (and crazy) enough…but YES! Geez! I have done it so many times and I never learned my lesson…I don’t know the reason why but at times, love can be so damn good even if I often disregard reciprocity.
6. How can you say that a person loves you?
I will know that the person loves me if he/she does not take advantage of my vulnerability. Part of building lasting relationship is showing not only my strength but my weaknesses as well, and I can tell if there’s love involved if there’s a give and take schema. Love is more than just being generous or thoughtful. There should be willingness to go the distance because you are fighting for your one true love. In short, there’s value in compromise.
7. Are you good in handling relationships?
Better ask my friends…and former flames,hehehe (do i have one?hehehe)
8. Willing to give everything?
Yeah…especially for the one that I love.
9. Best thing you’ve learned from loving?
In every relationship, it is better not to assume at all for you will only frustrate yourself in the end (for details, see my previous blog)
10. Do you demand your love one to change into someone that pleases you?
No. I don’t impose my ideals to another person. I think it’s the value I’ve learned from my parents.
11. Would you let go of someone you love?
If love demands me to let go, why not? The pain of separation will always be a part of the game but on the brighter side, it will teach me a lesson. This may sound ubiquitous but Experience is still the best teacher.
12. Is sex important in a relationship?
I’d rather not comment on this…
13. What is the major reason of a break up?
I have always believed on this adage: “Any relationship wherein you put yourself first won’t last…”
14. Most important ingredient/s in a relationship?
Intimacy…Reciprocity (highlighted for emphasis)…Trust…Respect
15. Ever regret loving someone?
Yes…it dawned on me many, many times…
16. One thing you hate about love?
If there’s hate, there’s no love anymore…some hate responsibility but I think it is very important in every relationship even if it can be a pain in the @$$ sometimes. I don’t get it when people hate responsibility when they enter a loving relationship. It is pointless.
17. One thing you like about love?
I can’t think of one thing…many to mention…
18. Worst thing you did to a loved one?
Being stupid most of the time by giving everything and not keeping just a tinge for myself.
19. Are you in love?
With God, yes, all the time….with somebody, uhhmmm…let’s say that I’m in a process of letting go (I can see eyes rolling and eyebrows raising…hint…hints…speculation…speculations…hehehe)
20. With whom?
See my answer on question # 19.
21. Do you have gf/bf?
I have enough friends to make my life complete even if there’s no significant other…
22. Why?
Why not?
Uncategorized | Comment (0)Happy Valentines Folks!
Valentines Day…A grace-filled day. God has taught me new things about relationship once again and this is how it goes…
i enter into a relationship with a purpose of satisfying my personal needs…and part of these are attempts to fill the void of certain facets of my life…turning the stones that were left unturned…laying all the broken pieces of me hoping that somebody would help me pick up even just a tiny fragment of my shattered humanity…
there were some who put their interest on these things…they have shown me spark of hope by trying to reach out…but in the long run, after i have given my all, i’ve realized that they are also like me…they have needs to satisfy and they just have to depend on me so that they too may be whole, even if this will hurt me…in the end, after all has been said and done, one has to fall apart to look for another chance at relationship…it really takes two to tango but part of this is the possibility of being left alone in vast dance floor of life…pain and loneliness are essential elements of the game.
i cannot deny the fact that i am still hurting at the moment but the hurt itself has taught me how to be optimistic. if relationship has the capacity to ruin a person, on the other hand, it can also heal…i am happy that my life was made out of circles because i am given the chance to confront its dichotomy…and that i am encouraged to love more, to hope more, and to believe more…